what to write


Wedding planning takes a lot of work. One aspect that needs to be taken care of fairly early on is the wedding invitations, or at least ‘save-the-dates‘. Aside from choosing the design and layout (which can be a feat in itself), knowing exactly what to write and in what order can also be confusing. Fear not, however, for we have done the research! We’ve come up with this handy guide to help you decide exactly what to write in your wedding invitation.

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Save the dates vs wedding invitations

A save the date is like a pre-invitation invitation. The purpose of these is to let the prospective guests know to expect an invitation in the coming months and to keep the date of the planned wedding free. That way they give them as much advance notice as possible. Save the dates needn’t include many more details than the name of the couple and the date of the wedding, just so that the guests can make sure they keep that date free.

What tradition dictates…

Traditionally, the bride’s parents were considered to be the hosts of a wedding (and would pay for the whole affair). Invitations would be sent out from them, and they would be named at the top of each invitation. However, these days it is considered fairer to include the names of both sets of parents (regardless of which, if either, are helping financially). If, however, the couple decide that they don’t want to include the names of any parents, that is also fine. It is their wedding, after all!

That said, there are some pieces of necessary information that you definitely should put on the invitation…

What to write in a wedding invitation – the essentials

Checklist on what to write in a wedding invitation

What follows is a list of what should be considered essential information to write in your wedding invitation.

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The names of the hosts

Traditionally, the name of the bride would go first, named as the daughter of her parents. The son and his parents names would follow in the same format. It is also an option to only put the bride’s parents’ names, followed by the invitation, or if you want to go down a more modern route, you can just mention “families of” the bride and groom. Alternatively, you can send the invitations direct from the bride and groom, with them as hosts. Here’s an example of what to write in you wedding invitation that you can copy and adjust:

Different ways to start your wedding invitation depending on who is hosting.

Jennifer Rickard, daughter of Mr. Michael and Lynn Rickard

and James Vaughan, son of Mr. Charles and Elsa Vaughan



Mr. and Mrs. Michael Rickard



Together with their parents/families, Jennifer and James



Jennifer Rickard and James Vaughan


What to write on the wedding invitation itself

An example of how to phrase the actual 'invite' part of the wedding invitation

This is the part where you actually request the guests to come to the wedding. It can be phrased in a number of ways, including:

… are delighted to invite you to the wedding of [couple’s names]

... request the pleasure of your company at the wedding of [couple’s names]

… request the honor of your presence at their wedding (if the couple are hosting)

The location of the ceremony (if they are invited to both)

You don’t actually need to include the entire address these days. Assuming all guests have access to the internet, you can just include the name of the venue and the name of the town if you want to keep your invitation looking clean and more minimal. You could go totally the other way and include a mini map of the location if it is particularly difficult to find. It totally depends on the aesthetic of the wedding invitations themselves. And, of course, whether or not you think guests might have difficulty in finding the location.

The location of the reception (if different to the ceremony)

The same applies here to the location of the ceremony.

The date and time

Be sure here to write the correct times for guests only invited to evening receptions. Otherwise, it could make for an awkward scene if they turn up to the ceremony and there is no space for them to sit or eat!

RSVP information

Include a way for guests to respond to the invitation, with a date for the final cut-off (usually scheduled to be around 4 weeks before the date of the wedding, but can be earlier if you are planning something like a destination wedding abroad. This can be done in the form of an RSVP card included with the invitation itself, where the address it needs to be mailed back to (traditionally the address of the bride’s parents), or simply an address to which the guest can post their own RSVP, an email address, or phone number.

Optional Information

An example wedding invitation postcard attached to a bunch of eucalyptus branches

Dress code

If you are planning to have a dress code for your wedding, the invitation is the best place to inform your guests, as this way they will have plenty of time to find a suitable outfit for the occasion.

Wedding website

It is becoming increasingly popular for couples to have a wedding website made up which offers extra information about how the couple met, for example, testimonials from close friends/family, and photos of the couple. It can also include all the essential details about the wedding, as listed above. If you decide to create one of these, it is a nice idea to add a link to it on the invitation so that guests can also check it out.

Gift list details

Many couples these days will have lived together for some time before deciding to get married. If this is you, you may have acquired many of the traditional home items that would have been gifted to you in the past. For this or other reasons, you may decide to make some kind of online gift list of items you would be grateful to receive. The wedding invitation is a good place to include where to find this information, so guests can be sure to buy something that you really want.

Good luck writing your wedding invitation!

And that’s it! Aside from the essentials you can include whatever information you like, remember it is your wedding, your day, and you can (and should) celebrate in exactly the way you want to!

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‘I love you.’ Those three little words carry a lot of weight, but sometimes you just want to express your feelings differently. Maybe you haven’t quite reached that level in your relationship yet and are afraid of being the first one to say it. Maybe you have, but you feel like you’re over-using the phrase and want a more creative way to express yourself. Whatever your reason for mixing it up, I’ve got you covered! Below are several creative ways to say I love you, without actually saying I love you, grouped into categories to suit your specific situation. There’s something for everyone!

Subtle ways to say I love you (without saying it)

An example of saying I love you without saying the words

There are many subtle ways to let someone know that you care a lot about them. You can express how much they mean to you with the following sentiments.

  • I don’t know what I’d do without you.
  • You are awesome.
  • You are my best friend.
  • I saved you a seat.
  • You’re one of a kind.
  • You’re the coolest person I know.

Romantic alternatives to saying I love you

A romantic way to say I love you (wthout saying I love you)

Finding romantic words to replace “I love you” doesn’t have to be difficult. Think of how they make you feel, and the effect that being around them has on you.

  • You light up my life.
  • Every time I think of you, my heart jumps and my tummy cartwheels.
  • Your laugh is my favorite sound.
  • No matter where I am or what I’m doing, when I see your name pop up on my phone, I just start grinning like the Cheshire Cat.
  • I don’t know what I’d do without you. You make my life brighter just by being in it.

Showing concern as a way to express love

Expressing concern example as one of the ways to say I love you

These types of phrases can be romantic, familial, or platonic. That means they fit most situations because to use any of them is to show concern for the other person’s wellbeing.

  • What did you eat today?
  • Have you been taking your vitamins?
  • Did you sleep OK last night?

Showing interest in their life

An example for showing interest in your loved one's life

Sometimes showing love can be as simple as demonstrating interest, letting them know that their thoughts/opinions are valued by you. This could look like any of the following questions and phrases.

  • How was your day?
  • Have you caught up with the latest episode of … (insert TV show here)?
  • Did you hear about … (insert recent news story/sports result/popular song etc.)? What do you think about it?

Showing knowledge of the person’s likes and dislikes

A great way to show that you love someone is to let them know how well you know them and that you have listened to them in the past. This can be done by suggesting ideas of things you know they specifically would like to do, that you wouldn’t do yourself otherwise.

  • Want to stay in with popcorn and watch Lord of the Rings this weekend?
  • There’s a new Korean BBQ place opening in town next week, you want to go?
  • This made me think of you (attach meme, picture/video etc.).
  • Hey, I saw there’s going to be a vegan market open next month, shall we go?

Complimenting specific things about them

A way to compliment someone instead of saying the words I love you

Compliments are a great way to show your love for someone. And the more specific they are, the better, because it shows that you really pay attention to them. Here are some examples of things you could talk about –

  • You always dress so well! I love your style, it really suits you and your personality.
  • That shirt really brings out the color in your eyes.
  • Your hair looks awesome today, I really like what you did with it.
  • Eyeliner is on point today!
  • Your sense of humor is so dry and hilarious. You crack me up.

Love Language Examples

These examples are based on the idea of a person who really likes cream cheese bagels, but can be tailored to fit anyone and their favorite food stuff 😀

Words of affirmation: You are amazing – like a cream cheese bagel!

Quality time: Lets hang out and eat cream cheese bagels together.

Physical touch: Hold my right hand in your left hand, and this cream cheese bagel in your right.

Acts of service – I toasted you a bagel. Cream cheese, right?

Receiving gifts – I bought you this delicious cream cheese bagel.

P.S. If you’re interested in communicating in your partner’s love language, then read more about romantic gestures that speak in your partner’s love language here!

And that’s how you say I love you – without ever saying the words!

So there you have it, a list of many different ways to let you know you love someone, without being so forward as to say it out loud (or on paper!). Hopefully it helps, and you’re able to find a way to suitably express yourself!

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